Sunday, May 10, 2009

Divorce: Taboo No Longer

By Carol Cavanaugh

The rate of divorce in America is rising at an alarming rate. While some of the numbers vary from source to source, it looks as though nearly half of all marriages end in dissolution. Even decade old unions are subject to this country-wide trend and some blame Hollywood for setting a bad example.

Throughout the tabloid headlines you see evidence of high profile marriages ending in turmoil. Some would even say that stars treat their spouses like objects; when a better mate comes along you toss out the old one. Since commitments are now taken so lightly there is a higher percentage of marriage failure.

At some point in time the sacredness of marriage lost it's meaning and many couples considered the vows to be temporary. Later, the happy marriage may have crumbled due to difficult circumstances. Irreconcilable differences becomes the tagline and soon after, the happy couple enters the soon to be exes trend. Children are divided up like property and assets are fought over like wild boars. Its a depressing reality.

Children hurt the most when parents separate. If a child is very young, they have a tendency to act out for attention. A handful might even place blame on themselves thinking that their parents splitting up was their own fault. Dealing with divorce can be difficult for adults, teens and older children most of the time. The separation of parents can be devastating for children. They may even view it as having to pick one parent over the other.

There is another situation that isn't always talked about however. Spouses who have been abused can sometimes find a reprieve with divorce. It has a way of empowering the powerless to get their lives back once again. This is not always the case however because abusers don't always leave the picture quietly. Some divorcees will live their lives in fear of an estranged spouse. But for some, it is an embraced solution to a difficult situation.

Some people have made the suggestion that there should be stricter regulations on marriage in order to lessen the number of divorces. It would perhaps help to have more counseling or impose bigger legal fees. A process for registering that would force couples to register as a couple when they have decided to marry is another option. They must be registered a year in order to receive a marriage license therefore giving the couple time to live with the idea of marriage for longer.

Divorce is being used as an easy solution to marital problems. This world needs to realize that relationships are meant to last. Couples need to work out their problems like adults and talk about everything and anything before deciding to take a legal vow. We need to teach our children to respect one another, that problems can only be solved by dealing with them and not running away from them, and that marriage is hard. That is the only way we can aid couples to remain married. - 20762

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